I know it is hard for men to come out of their shells and gain freedom. Most people do not know the more you keep a secret in the dark the longer it has power over you. These secrets have power over us as men, and they cripple us from walking with out heads high.
If you think you are not hurting yourself, ask yourself this one question. If your significant other found out would their heart break? If you have to think longer than a 1/2 second the answer is yes they would. The reason for the longer thinking process is simply you are trying to rationalize it from your perspective not theirs.
Lets talk it will not be a waste of time for you.